Dealing With Painful Emotions: How To Distinguish Between Guilt, Shame, and Embarrassment

Let me start by saying that I don’t know about you, but I know about me: over the course of my life, I have had times of experiencing pretty intense amounts of all three of these emotionally painful —although perfectly human—feelings. Fortunately, I have cultivated a set of tools that help me keep all three of these feelings in check whenever they pop up—tools which I plan to mention later on here.

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Becoming Your Own Best Friend: Advice On Cultivating Self-Love

So much here online and elsewhere is written about loving yourself, or taking care of yourself, or re-parenting yourself, or being your own best friend. I mainly want to focus here on that last perspective – – the best friend part. To be the best type of friend you can be to yourself would, I hope you realize, be a real gift— from you to you!

Be Courageous: A Soulful Gift, From You To You

What’s so great about courage? Two things mainly, if you ask me. One: even though you may be anxious, it gives you an opportunity to pursue something you want , or make something you hope to happen actually happen. Second, even if you don’t end up getting what you want or making that something actually happen, you can always respect yourself for having given it a shot!

How Non-Sexual Intimacy Can Make Or Break A Relationship

how much does non-sexual intimacy matter to you in your relationship with your special woman? If your answer is anything less than “a lot” (or at least something like “ I know it should mean more, but I’m not sure how to get there”), then I encourage you to hear me out.

When Arguing, What’s Your True Priority—WINNING OR RESOLVING? [Featuring Four Practical Steps For Positive Resolution]

What follows is for any important relationship you are in, or someone you know is in: romantic love, parent-child, other family members, or platonic friendship. Let’s suppose you and someone with whom you are in a relationship argue often. Or, you don’t argue very often, but when you do, it can get nasty and contentious.Continue reading “When Arguing, What’s Your True Priority—WINNING OR RESOLVING? [Featuring Four Practical Steps For Positive Resolution]”

The Self-Worth Equation: Why The Little Things Make All The Difference

When I think of a way to describe the meaning of the term “emotional self-worth,” I go with the following equation: self-worth equals self-esteem plus self-respect. Let me take each of those two separately. On the self-esteem front , I look at self-esteem as having two parts: the “outer” (how you feel about how youContinue reading “The Self-Worth Equation: Why The Little Things Make All The Difference”

Feel Like You Are Never Good Enough? Learn My Secrets To Challenging Your Inner Bully [Because I’ve Done It, Too]

Only in maybe the past 5 years have I become clear that my—I call it, and wrote a book on it—“inner bully” had kept me puffing away on a “never good enough” emotional treadmill. Meanwhile, in the process of trying so hard to see myself as “good enough”—better yet, good, much less very good—I was very successfully disregarding my actual successes in my life, be they, e.g., professionally, academically, or inter-personally.